The Helper Needs Help

Did you know that people who are seeking approval will often start ministries hoping to satisfy their inner need? They will be passionate about “The Cause” all the while hoping for the response from people that will satisfy their own need for approval.

When you praise them for their ministry and donate to their ministry, this is the “fix” the wounded minister needs to feel accepted and approved.

What’s the answer? The minister should seek help from a professional as to the problem for not feeling approved. They should also remove themselves from ministry during the time of healing and “hide” from any and all praise or control of any finances. Once they are free and if they still have a passionate burden to minister, they should do so without any promotion of self or others.  

Of course this applies to many professions. The problem lies in wrong motive. When the motive of a person is wrong they will compromise the mission and eventually hurt the very people that they are supposed to be helping. 

I remember a friend giving to a particular ministry and had earmarked the funds for missions to Africa. The minister misused the earmarked funds to pay bills. African missions received none of the monies and when the giver found out what had happened, they were disillusioned and stopped giving altogether. How did this happen? The minister was growing the ministry in a bloated fashion to gain the approval of the community. Great damage was caused, all because the minister was seeking for approval from men. 

Do we need approval? Yes, we all can use the approval of family, friends and community. We must not seek that approval at the expense of others potentially losing respect for our calling.

Through prayer and devotion to God you can solidify your approval from God and work with pure motive to help those in need. The praise of men is comforting. but should never be our driving force.

Please God by loving Him with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength. Love your neighbor as yourself and let your approval be from God in the secret times of communion with Him.

“For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.”

-Apostle Paul

Love you all,





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